Marriage is a natural union but a divine institution, ordained of God. It was established by the Creator God at creation and derives its authority from the divine laws of God, immutable and unchangeable.
For those who are considering getting married or the already married,these steps could help you achieve God's idea of marriage.
1. Get to know yourselves:Taking time to really come to know and understand the person you will marry. It takes time to recognize your own weaknesses and strengths, along with those of your potential spouse.we come from different cultures and grow up with varied beliefs regarding husband/wife roles and responsibilities. Most differences aren't necessarily deal breakers, but they can cause strain and conflict, and they can be key factors in determining what kind of marriage is likely to develop. When two people recognize their differences before marriage and find mutually acceptable ways to deal with the issues, they can successfully resolve and avoid conflict.
Premarital counseling is imperative before couples say, “I do.” The time spent in preparation for marriage can be reassuring and help lay a foundation for a long, successful union.
2. Marriage takes time to work:A lot of married and potential married partners go into marriage with a lot of expectations of a perfect relationship and partner,but the truth is that there is no perfect man or woman out there,it takes the two of you through conscious effort, commitment and hard work to make create that perfect relationship/marriage.
Most marriages wind up as soon as they begin as a result of lack of understanding.Like every venture, it takes time to yield the desired result.At the point were the initial excitement of marriage has become gloomy; that is when not to give up,rather the actual work begins.Focusing solely on what we want and deserve in marriage isn't healthy. Instead, we are better off under promising and over delivering when it comes to showing love to our mates.
3. Learn to communicate effectively with one another:Effective communication breeds successful relationships.When we communicate daily with our creator; through prayers and the study of His word, it brings us closer to Him and helps us to know Him even better.Same applies to marriage, when couples learn to discuss issues objectively,the tendency to be free and open minded will exist,helping to enrich their relationship/marriage.
Couples must also be willing to view things in each others perspective, and learn to compromise when necessary.Being dogmatic can lead to both physical and emotional withdrawal which is not healthy for the relationship in the long run.Also they must learn to discuss everything,there shouldn't be 'no go areas' when it comes to things to talk about.When barriers of such are created in relationships it brings about distrust. Trust me, 'no relationship or marriage can survive where there is no trust'.
4. Respect and love one another: There is a saying that "respect is reciprocal".Mutual respect brings about self-worth in a relationship.This helps to exhibit the best in the parties to the gains of the relationship or marriage.
Every marriage where respect exists there is bound to be love, peace and progress.
Most abusive marriages is as a result of lack of mutual respect.A situation where a woman respects her husband and the husband does not see her as human but as another piece of furniture in the house, abuse becomes the order of the day.Surely, nothing good can come out of such relationship/marriage
The other way round, where mutual love and respect exist there can only be a certain outcome; ecstasy which culminates into lasting marriage.
Be assured, happy and successful marriage is possible but it takes the effort of the two concerned to make it work .Mathew 18:19.
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